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Recognizing Strategic Defeat in the Morality Wars Over What Constitutes

Right and Wrong


By Carman Bradley


Feminist Diana Alstad calls the ideological struggle against heterosexism the “planetary battle” or the “morality wars” over “who has the right to decide what’s right?”[i] Linked to the outcome of the morality wars are the dominant societal and governance views on abortion, premarital sex, extra-marital sex, homosexual sex, procreation, marriage and family.  And here the enactment of same-sex marriage symbolizes the full defeat of heterosexism as an influence upon state governance.  The new homosexist state no longer entertains the voice of “heterosexist” morality because in the state’s new worldview there is no ideal.  In homosexism morality is situational and experiential, not absolute, certainly not religious.  The guiding principles are taken from homosexual culture - non-judgmentalism (amoralism), liberalism, experimentalism, inclusiveness, and indifference.  The homosexist goal of obtaining zero societal discrimination requires that there be no social standard or model. 

Well before the same-sex marriage enactment Melinda Ledden Sidak of Independent Women’s Forum described the setbacks already endured by social conservatives as a result of the sexual liberation and feminist movements (both social phenomena hugely prejudiced by the motives and values of the homosexual liberation movement): 

Women, the traditional enforcers of sexual morality, abandoned their posts in the 1960s and 1970s under the onslaught of the sexual revolution…Due to woman’s ‘promiscuity,’ man no longer has any reason to respect her or treat her well.  Instead he succumbs to his basest instincts, sleeping with her and rejecting the consequences, refusing to marry or cheating on her when he does, and eventually divorcing her guiltlessly to seek out younger prey.  Clearly, marriage cannot survive without premarital virginity, chaste womanhood, chivalrous maleness, a return to traditional gender roles within marriage, and public vilification of every alternative.  In short, marriage cannot exist without every advance of the women’s movement systematically reversed.”[ii]

According to feminist Dalma Heyn, for those victorious liberated heterosexual women who choose to marry, their sexual curriculum vitae looks something like this:

The average young woman – working, assertive personally and professionally – is comfortable with independence, employment, autonomy, and multiple sexual relationships.  She began having sex, according to the newest Kinsey Institute Report, between the (median) ages of sixteen and seventeen.  If she marries at the age of twenty-seven, then, she will have been making love – with one man or several, simultaneously or serially, alone or cohabitating – for a decade.  She is used to pleasure as to pleasing, and envisions having both in equal measure in an egalitarian marital relationship.[iii]  

In Together Forever: Gay and Lesbian Marriage, author Eric Marcus acknowledges that society is at a strategic cross road over marriage redefinition.  After rejecting “those who believe that granting gay and lesbian people the legal right to marry will somehow destroy family life,”[iv] he simply claims marriage access as a constitutional right.  Ironically, his earlier book The Male Couple’s Guide: Finding a Man, Making a Home, Building a Life exposes the paradoxical notion of marriage in homosexual culture.  He promotes promiscuity and monogamy in the same breath:

Relationships change, circumstances change, people change.  Men who entered relationships planning to be monogamous may not find that the arrangement suits them.  Men who started a relationship agreeing to nonmonogamy may find over time that that arrangement isn’t working out.  That’s why it’s important to leave the door open to discussion about the ground rules of your relationship.[v]

He sets out examples of grounds rules which entreat a unique definition of same-sex union and against marriage redefinition:

(1) Sex with other partners is allowed, but must be kept secret.  (2) Sex with other partners is allowed, but must be discussed.  (3) Sex is not permitted with mutual friends.  (4) Only anonymous sexual encounters are permitted.  (5) Sex is permitted only when one partner is out of town.  (6) Sex with other partners is not permitted at home.  (7) Sex with other partners is permitted at home, but not in the couple’s bedroom.  (8) Outside sex is permitted, but only when both partners choose a third to join them.[vi] 

Maggie Gallagher, author of Abolition of Marriage, summarizes the strategic victory for what should be labeled “homosexism” or “state sponsored indifference”:

Over the past thirty years, American family law has been rewritten to dilute both the rights and obligations of marriage, while at the same time placing other relationships, from adulterous liaisons to homosexual partnerships, on a legal par with marriage in some respects.  To put it another way, by expanding the definition of marriage to the point of meaninglessness, courts are gradually redefining marriage out of existence.[vii]

In response to gay activism of the 80’s and early 90’s, Kristi Hamrick, Press Secretary for Family Research Council, made an astute prediction, which has now been fulfilled in spades:

This is why lines must be drawn, standards discussed, and battles fought. Because when people push the envelope of morality and get away with it, they don’t sit back to enjoy the sensation. They reach further – touching the lives of the people around them – touching the lives of your children, and someday, mine.

If nothing else, the redefinition of marriage says to Canadian society and more specifically to our youth:

“Nuts to traditional marriage.”

“Nuts to the conservative argument voiced over all these years.”

 “Nuts to Christianity.”

“Nuts to all traditional religions.”


Copyright © 2008 StandForGod.Org


[i] Karla Mantilla, “Abortion, power, and the morality wars,” Off Our Backs, Washington, February 1999.

[ii] Pamela Paul, The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony (New York: World Publishing Company, 1987), p. 233.

[iii] Dalma Heyn, Marriage Shock:The Transformation of Women into Wives (New York: Villard, 1997), p.xii.

[iv] Eric Marcus, Together Forever: Gay and Lesbian Marriage (New York: Anchor Books, 1998), p.46.

[v] Eric Marcus, The Male Couple’s Guide: Finding a Man, Making a Home, Building a Life, Third Edition, (New York: HaperPerennial, 1988), p. 46.

[vi] Ibid., pp.43 and 44.

[vii] Maggie Gallagher, The Abolution of Marriage: How We Destroy Lasting Love (Washington D.C.: Regenery, 1996), p.31.

[viii] Joe Dallas, A Strong Delusion: Confronting the “Gay Christian” Movement (Eugene Oregon: Harvest House, 1996), p.37. Quote by Kristi Hamrick, Press Secretary, Family Research Council.